The Choice of Being Chosen

It’s always challenging to find a topic I want to write about. My thoughts are usually running wild. I always get the best thoughts, when I’m driving too. I chose this title yesterday and a few things confirmed it was the right one.

We have all given someone or something everything we had, in hopes that we are chosen. We show our loyalty to our lovers, friends, bae, boo, cutty, family, job, social media, organizations, and etc. I think we can all agree here, right? Well the question is, have you chose yourself lately? We spend so much time pleasing others, looking for love and acceptance and forget to accept ourselves and all the baggage we bring. I will be the first to say, I am guilty. I have given my all to plenty of people and things, only to be left in the end. I have loved so hard hoping for acceptance, only to be fooled and left behind. I have worked extremely hard because that’s my work ethic, but in hopes for acceptance. I have been the greatest friend to all those I encounter, in hopes for acceptance. But, that’s right, you got it, only to be left behind.

I wouldn’t say I am who I am to people and my jobs just for acceptance, but I think it’s a natural desire to feel that. Acceptance can mean being recognized for your hard work, loyalty, love, dedication, and always being dependable. It’s satisfying, right? It’s so easy to be all those things, if that’s your character. But, it can be tiresome. I have been the most loyal person to those I encounter, only to be dropped like dead weight. It hurts and I often times question the purpose. It use to be a “why me?” What about me causes this? What about me attracts this? Why does this happen to me? Why am I so loyal? Why is my heart so pure? Why do people always mistreat me? Why aren’t some of my friends as loyal to me as I am to them? Why am I chosen to be used, abused, picked over, and left out? It’s a constant thought, but then it hit me!

Why not me? Why not be chosen to be mistreated? Why not be chosen to be heart broken? Why not be chosen to experience the friend’s ability to be disloyal? Why not be chosen to work hard and get over looked for a promotion? Why not be chosen to be used? Why not be chosen to be left out? Why not embrace everything that comes your way?

I know everyone has experienced some of those things, if not all of them. We spend the time desiring to be chose, but we forget the most important pivotal point in our lives. WE FORGET TO CHOSE US! The choice of being chosen is the choice you have in choosing you! I fell asleep writing this last night and I’m glad I did. I received the confirmation I needed in my choice to choose me. I now know I’m on the right path. I have been hand picked to go through this particular process to ensure I’m stronger enough to embrace my next chapter. It hurts to not be chose by the people we desire to be chose by, but embrace it all and wait for the new chapter.

Today I am choosing me and setting boundaries. I’m choosing to love me more, embrace me more, identify my flaws more, accept others choices to not chose me more. I’m choosing me, my life, and my happiness more. It’s alright to be selfish and make the choice to choose you. If you have ever been looked over, just know it all has purpose. The greatest thing about “going through”, is that it’s already been identified that you will get through! Trust the process in choosing you. I choose me today, will you? The only thing different about our lives, struggles, likes, dislikes, wants and desires, is how we CHOOSE to handle them. We are no longer waiting to be chose, we are choosing today! Will you join me?

God is love and he chose us. I’m choosing to be a trailblazer and extend my arms, heart, ears, and service to you! Together we are all better! Let’s help each other understand this process. I am here and always available! Make a choice to be chosen!